“Bianca, you’re like a battered, abused housewife with all the shit you’ve been through in the coaching industry. ” she said.
This was from a business owner who got her first international sales award at 28.
By 50, she’d trained thousands of staff.
She’d worked at the daily edge of boom and bust for decades as the founders wing woman.
Her nervous system was forged by the kind of environment where you could be asking, “Are we going bankrupt today?” and then “Oh no, we’re expanding into 8 more stores”.
She juggled multi million dollar ad budgets like she was making a cup of tea.
“You do realise you don’t actually know what normal, ethical standard practice is to expect and demand.”
Oh. Did somebody just slap me in the face?
It was the kind of wake-up call that makes the frog finally look around and go:
“Ohhhhh. FUCK. I’m in boiling water. Abort! Abort!”
Except…
I didn’t get out.
Because this wasn’t one big, obvious thing.
It was a thousand tiny things I’d gradually learned to call normal.
Commission-only sales.
Being rewarded for overriding myself.
Pressure being part of the deal.
Exhaustion being evidence that I was committed.
Believing that if I wanted the result badly enough, I should be willing to pay whatever it cost me to get there.
And I remember thinking… hmmm. you’re probably right.
Because some of the shit I’ve seen in the coaching industry is the equivalent of an entrepreneurial crack house.
Oh, the things I’ve seen.
Everyone chasing the next hit.
More money.
More visibility.
More growth.
More clients.
More proof
And then calling the comedown ambition.
The stories I could tell you…. Coming to a platform near you soon.
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The $300K-a-Month Nervous Breakdown
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I Woke Up To Eight Voicemails Before 6AM
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The CEO Hijacked My Sale – Then Stole My Commission
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When the Gurus On The Stage Are The Most Toxic People In The Room
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The Dude On Stage Is A Predator. Run.
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She Was a Multi-Millionaire. I’d Rather Be Homeless Than Live Her Life.
And that’s just the beginning.
Because here’s what I didn’t understand for a long time. The problem wasn’t that I’d encountered a few bad apples.
I’d been swimming in a system that had taught me to call the symptoms normal.
Pressure. Extraction. The constant thirst for MORE.
And the idea that if you’re serious about success, you’re supposed to tolerate more.
The cost of those systems isn’t theoretical.
It’s your nervous system.
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Your health.
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Your relationships.
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Your time.
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Your creativity.
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Your ability to actually enjoy the fucking thing you built.
Because these systems aren’t necessarily obviously abusive. They work.
That’s why you stay.
You make the money → You hit the target → You get the result →
You become “successful”.
And somewhere along the way, you stop questioning what it cost you.
You just learn that the price of success is just… the price of success.
What if we weren’t just architecting everything around MORE.
What if we started thinking about success more like an ecosystem?
Where growth in one part creates the conditions for growth somewhere else.
Where energy isn’t simply extracted and spent, but moves through the whole system.
Where there are seasons for expansion and seasons for restoration.
Where the system becomes stronger because everything within it is thriving.
What if success could regenerate itself? And it became reciprocal in nature?
What if your growth created more life – for you, your clients, your team, your family – rather than consuming it?
That’s exactly what I’ve put together in the methodology I’ve spent the last 10 years refining. Mana Ora: The Regenerative Success Pathway – Where success amplifies when nothing inside of you is afraid of more.
At bottom of the page there’s an invitation to a free training I created at the bottom of the page – called Bigger Months That Feel Lighter
Check it out!
