There are some really common mistakes I see with passionate entrepreneurial women with very talented gifts who aren’t being supported by their business as much as they support their clients.
I see them ….
> under charging and over delivering
> waiting for approval and permission before decisively taking action instead of just diving in deep and backing themselves.
> feeling anxious before sales conversations and discounting, or letting people go away and think about it without following them up,
> believing peoples objections as truth rather than just the evidence of why their prospective client truly just NEEDS the service they are offering.
> neglecting building the systems, structures and procedures their business needs to grow
> subconsciously and consciously sabotaging their business growth
> overwhelmed with the details of tech and strategy and implementation
> Struggling under the weight of all the roles in their lives – mother, friend, wife, child, visionary leader, fiscally responsible business owner, masterful coach with total skill conviction .
I think it’s a hangover from our days as healers when we would be burnt at the stake for being a witch seeing as accepting payments for our herbs, medicine, wisdom and or our connection to God outside of the church was considered blasphemous. I mean, a simple walk in the forest talking to your pet aka your familiar was once enough to get you sentenced to death!
So if you find yourself avoiding exchanging large sums of money for your work – it might also be a subconscious driver trying to keep you safe and hidden away as a matter of survival!
I also think as very sensitive beings, who are so deeply connected into nurturing and giving – receiving money for the gift they are bestowing feels awkward.
And yet, they’re often also in a level of scarcity that they also feel resentful that their business doesn’t pay them more.
We need to first name and notice the prices that we feel “comfortable” to charge – but also to extrapolate the life transformational value of what it is that you actually do.
So that the price you charge seems like pittance in exchange for the results your clients actually experience.
Dismantle the drama cycle of the Overgiving Saviour – the part of you that thinks what you DO for others, and how much you submit your desires in the name of service makes you a good person.
Become their Dedicated Advocate instead and lead them to a future vision that is greater than the one they have for themselves.
There are visibility blocks we need to work through for heart centred women, we carry wounds from our past that stop us standing as our full most bright and shining light for all to see.
In order to build the 6 figure business that turns into 6 figure months and can scale to 7…. There needs to be spaciousness inbuilt into your journey time that paces your awakening, learning and implementation.
We have to confront our inner Good Girl to stand out and say what it is we really stand for and against in order to be the leader that our business and clients requires .
We have to be loud and outspoken instead of shy and timid.
We have to be defiant and challenge the status quo.
We have to swallow our pride and not take rejection personally
We have to stoke our ego, swallow our self indulgent vomit and become a self-promoter
We have to be courageous to carve out a new future of possibilities for our family, that our parents most likely did not have.
It is tough!
It is an inner and an outer battlefield and transmutation occurring and so there needs to be time in between learning, shifting, pondering, creating, implementing, refining and then mastering.
It takes time!
And it’s okay to let it take the time it has to take.
Whilst it does usually take time to create change – change can also be instantaneous.
The inner work you do may have a lag time before you see it manifest into physical reality. However, this doesn’t mean that your success is directly proportional to how hard or how long you work. A huge insight can help you find hidden opportunities in places you never knew to look, or connect the dots between people and places that open up new and exciting collaborations.
Remember the Universal balance of supply and demand. If you desire to offer something, it’s because out there somebody is crying out for the help that only you can give. The Universe remains unbalanced and unfulfilled until you step up and fulfil the space that only you and your unique way of doing things can.
It’s that saying “It’s the fish John West rejects, that makes John West the best” that symbolises how critical it is to be selective on who you serve and how you serve them that positions you as somebody who can legitimately charge high ticket prices.
You need to be okay with saying NO, I am not the best person to help you with that, and refer them on. And you need to be very clear in terms of who you accept working with, and who you reject.
The second layer to this point is that this blog serves as an invitation to those who resonate with what I say, to apply to work with me in the SuperCoach Collective.
However, there is a caveat: the type of person that I want to work with has to fit certain criteria.
Mostly those people are narcissists and probably wouldn’t be reading this far into a blog so if you’re reading this right now, it’s cool – we can be friends
And what you would need to know about me before working with me is:
After suffering a fairly serious breakdown I was unable to cope with life in general. My body felt broke, old and frail – I didn’t just feel middle aged, I felt half dead. I hadn’t realised that my body was self destructing and I was doing it to myself, working long hours, too much alcohol, lots of bad food and absolutely no exercise.
After six months of working with Bianca, I no longer need my blood pressure medication, anti depressants and my cholesterol is in a safe zone. I have lost 2 dress sizes and more than 26 kilos. I now have a life outside of our business and can see a happy, healthy future for our family. I hope the person I became never comes back as I like this girl so much better.
I had heard of Bianca through some magazines – it was an investment but I had tried and failed so many times but in six short months, 20 kilos melted off me and it had a massive and unexpected effect on our styling business. While working with Bianca we secured a national gig, increased our prices to a level we previously thought no one would pay, AND we were booked out weeks in advance.
The majority of this 20 kilo weight loss has only been 5% diet and exercise, the rest has been an emotional journey. Bianca confronted me and called me on my BS and challenged some of my most deeply help beliefs about who I am. And the results are undeniable. I haven’t completely quit drinking, I still get to eat chocolate, I’ve had the best year in my business EVER – and perhaps the most important thing is how differently I react to things emotionally.
Who knew that taking it slowly and being kind to yourself could get you the results that yelling at yourself couldn’t.
Before working with Bianca I was super stressed and I thought it was too hard and I didn’t have the time to be slim AND successful. But I was surprised at how easy it was to implement Bianca’s system – I haven’t counted calories and I still pig out on foods I love. It’s been no coincidence to me that as a result of the new clarity of mind I’ve actually doubled my business at the same time I’ve made these changes to my body.