I’ve got all my pretty makeup done because I’ve just come from shooting an amazing transformation video of my girl Gilli.
One of the the things that came up that we’ve both had a bit of giggle about trying to answer was, “What did you actually do, Gilli, to lose 55 kilos?”
So many people come rushing up to Gilli to ask her during this journey, “You’re looking fantastic. I can’t believe it. You’re just glowing from the inside out. What are you doing? I have to do it too!”
We really had a bit of a giggle because pretty much the standard answer Gilli always gave was like, “I’m not doing anything. I’m just loving myself sick. I’m just having fun. I’m just enjoying myself. I’m finally enjoying life.”
Because that number would flash up on the scales and that would dictate how she would run her day, like how she would speak to people. Even if that number had gone up 100 grams, it could ruin her entire day.
She was always 100 percent strict on her diet or 100 percent off her diet. It was always like trying to do something to create a result for a trip, or a cruise, or a holiday, or an event. And then when the event was on, it was hell for leather.
So this ricochet up and down yo-yo was happening for years and she was stuck in it.
Even though most of the time she was eating healthy, she knew what to do, she just wasn’t doing it consistently enough. And she was exercising. She was an awesome exerciser, religiously going to a crossfit gym every week.
And so, what changed?
It was who she was as a person – and she reclaimed her meaning and her worth from the number on the scales. She stopped being triggered. She raised her emotional intelligence, she upskilled her emotions and actually started off through journaling and found a bunch of hidden things in her subconscious that she never knew was actually bothering her.
One of these tasks was coming up with words that resonated and the word hate. The word hate actually spilled forth six pages of journal writing – and you’d never ever know from the happy go lucky girl she was on the outside. But from creating that awareness, she stopped eating her feelings, she stopped needing to eat her feelings. And as a part of the process, she allowed herself to start valuing herself as a person regardless of what the number on the scales said.
As she gained more life, the weight just kept on dropping. The less importance she put on it, the easier it was to stay healthy. The less she held herself back from enjoying life, like hiding herself under towels at the beach and not buying clothes that she felt really good in, the more she just started saying yes to herself, the easier it became until 55 kilos had disappeared.
It’s just an amazing testament to realizing when you are really focused on doing all the time, that might actually be your undoing.
Essentially, the Body Confidence Project is helping you focus on the not doing, the space that you haven’t allowed yourself to sit there and what that could mean for you and the gems of self-discovery that lie there for you.
And when you can do that, when you’re accessing your subconscious mind and you’re able to reprogram those meanings, all those things, all those excuses, all those events that you’ve created stories around as to why you can’t enjoy your life right now and why it has to only happen on the other side of a perfect weight or a perfect dress size, that’s when you really can shine the light of your true self. Then there’s no need for the excess outer layers. And that’s when they start disappearing.
Hope this helped, guys. Talk to you soon!
After suffering a fairly serious breakdown I was unable to cope with life in general. My body felt broke, old and frail – I didn’t just feel middle aged, I felt half dead. I hadn’t realised that my body was self destructing and I was doing it to myself, working long hours, too much alcohol, lots of bad food and absolutely no exercise.
After six months of working with Bianca, I no longer need my blood pressure medication, anti depressants and my cholesterol is in a safe zone. I have lost 2 dress sizes and more than 26 kilos. I now have a life outside of our business and can see a happy, healthy future for our family. I hope the person I became never comes back as I like this girl so much better.
I had heard of Bianca through some magazines – it was an investment but I had tried and failed so many times but in six short months, 20 kilos melted off me and it had a massive and unexpected effect on our styling business. While working with Bianca we secured a national gig, increased our prices to a level we previously thought no one would pay, AND we were booked out weeks in advance.
The majority of this 20 kilo weight loss has only been 5% diet and exercise, the rest has been an emotional journey. Bianca confronted me and called me on my BS and challenged some of my most deeply help beliefs about who I am. And the results are undeniable. I haven’t completely quit drinking, I still get to eat chocolate, I’ve had the best year in my business EVER – and perhaps the most important thing is how differently I react to things emotionally.
Who knew that taking it slowly and being kind to yourself could get you the results that yelling at yourself couldn’t.
Before working with Bianca I was super stressed and I thought it was too hard and I didn’t have the time to be slim AND successful. But I was surprised at how easy it was to implement Bianca’s system – I haven’t counted calories and I still pig out on foods I love. It’s been no coincidence to me that as a result of the new clarity of mind I’ve actually doubled my business at the same time I’ve made these changes to my body.