I start to see results but then for whatever reason, something always happens to take my focus, or I relax and then take the foot off the accelerator.
In this video I am going to share with you how to identify and overcome the common mindset beliefs, and practical food and exercise missteps that keep high performing women in business constantly falling off the bandwagon when it comes to making time for their healthy habits.
This destructive pattern is exactly what holds you back from living in your best, most vibrant, toned, healthy and fit feeling body.
I’m going to show you the key to How you can stay motivated and be consistent with your healthy eating habits – so that 80% you’re eating nourishing food and exercising, and 20% of the time you can relax and enjoy yourself WITHOUT sabotaging and just losing focus and ending up back to square one all the time.
This is not what your local GP will tell you…
Or the fitness models on Instagram will tell you..
But – it IS what any holistic health professional who understands positive psychology takes their clients through for long lasting and sustainable results.
One of my clients Gilli used this exact process to release 26 kilos in 6 months – and she had been on and off dieting for years – and she could lose sometimes 4 kilos in a week for an event, but then she would always blow out and return back to that weight within a few weeks. And sometimes she’d end up heavier than she was before! All that effort – just wasted.
It was this obsessive food rules and stressing about her body. This fluctuating between strict paleo, or weekend binges at weddings that was creating havoc with her body, her hormones and her self esteem. Fast forward 3 years on, she’s not only kept that weight off, but lost another 5 or so to the point where she only has fitness goals these days, and for the first time since she was a young adult she doesn’t have a weight loss goal.
And that’s totally understandable if you don’t want to live a life always eating LCHF or on a strict macro balancing diet. You’re right – life is worth living and you do deserve that glass of wine, or that cappuccino, or that beautiful rich meal at a restaurant with friends – but if you don’t have a plan that accommodates those lifestyle values you’ll always struggle.
And I get that – when you’ve done all the diets, and the results have worked in the past for a while – but now you’re back at square one, climbing that mountain and all the meal prep, and the sweat and blood and tears all over again. It’s enough to send you straight back into the arms of chocolate, chips and wine at even the THOUGHT of going on another diet.
You’re at an age that you know that there are more important things in life than punishing yourself with a strict diet. At the same time you can be worried and know you need to prioritise your health – but for the life of you you just can’t seem to do it. It just takes a turn into boring and blah town and ends up being just another thing on the to-do list and not a very enjoyable one at that.
These are really understandable reasons why it makes it difficult to stick to a health kick longer than a few weeks – but there are a couple of critical ways you can avoid these issues and ensure your long term success.
If you’re struggling with these issues and kinda beating yourself up about them no wonder – but here’s some cold hard truths:
Get clear on the image of WHAT YOU WANT – not just motivated by the absence of what you DON’T Want.
When you’re not super clear about the end destination of where you want to get to, you’ll find yourself getting halfway there, suddenly now the pain of where you were isn’t so strong, isn’t such a big motivator – and the compulsion to get to where you want to be isn’t clear enough. You kind of just end up being in no man’s land and you’ve got no other mode of operation but to sabotage and end up back to where you were before so that you can then again use “away from” motivation to propel you forward.
You need to identify what your subconscious triggers are – what’s so scary about that ideal size/weight. Maybe you associate that with getting unwanted attention, maybe it makes you not feel safe to stand out, maybe it feels like you won’t be any fun if you’re going to be that size/weight. There’s a whole bunch of blocks that may be standing in the way of you actually manifesting your desire.
On the flip side of that, you might actually have a bunch of secondary payoffs of staying stuck with where you are right now. Maybe you get to hide away, maybe you get to sneak under the radar, maybe you get to miss out on the pain of failure, so you don’t even try. All these things can be real interferences getting in the way of what we truly want.
It’s only in this place that the sum of all efforts repeated over time can actually accumulate to give you enough momentum to keep you propelling yourself forward. When you use one of those really strict plans where there’s nothing fun or pleasurable programmed into it because you’re trying to punish yourself healthy, that’s what kicks off the All or Nothing pendulum.
You literally set yourself up for failure by using one of those super strict meal plans without being really clear on how you’re going to be nourishing yourself, how you’re going to be kind to yourself, and really understanding the delayed gratification of your efforts.
Powerful and revealing as these strategies may be, the most important thing you need to understand is that these steps are just a small part of a larger system.
What you’re looking at here is a proven framework we use to help high performing women go from feeling out of control with their food and feeling frustrated and frumpy, to getting in complete control and complete body confidence anywhere, anytime, all year round.
My clients have used this exact system to lose anywhere from 5 to 18 kilos in 90 days without just giving up all the foods they love or spending hours in the gym. And what we’ve been talking about here has been Subconscious Sabotage, which is in the Follow Through Phase.
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After suffering a fairly serious breakdown I was unable to cope with life in general. My body felt broke, old and frail – I didn’t just feel middle aged, I felt half dead. I hadn’t realised that my body was self destructing and I was doing it to myself, working long hours, too much alcohol, lots of bad food and absolutely no exercise.
After six months of working with Bianca, I no longer need my blood pressure medication, anti depressants and my cholesterol is in a safe zone. I have lost 2 dress sizes and more than 26 kilos. I now have a life outside of our business and can see a happy, healthy future for our family. I hope the person I became never comes back as I like this girl so much better.
I had heard of Bianca through some magazines – it was an investment but I had tried and failed so many times but in six short months, 20 kilos melted off me and it had a massive and unexpected effect on our styling business. While working with Bianca we secured a national gig, increased our prices to a level we previously thought no one would pay, AND we were booked out weeks in advance.
The majority of this 20 kilo weight loss has only been 5% diet and exercise, the rest has been an emotional journey. Bianca confronted me and called me on my BS and challenged some of my most deeply help beliefs about who I am. And the results are undeniable. I haven’t completely quit drinking, I still get to eat chocolate, I’ve had the best year in my business EVER – and perhaps the most important thing is how differently I react to things emotionally.
Who knew that taking it slowly and being kind to yourself could get you the results that yelling at yourself couldn’t.
Before working with Bianca I was super stressed and I thought it was too hard and I didn’t have the time to be slim AND successful. But I was surprised at how easy it was to implement Bianca’s system – I haven’t counted calories and I still pig out on foods I love. It’s been no coincidence to me that as a result of the new clarity of mind I’ve actually doubled my business at the same time I’ve made these changes to my body.