• How to FREE yourself from the never ending quest to “be better” and “look better” and why it’s just lining other people’s pockets
• The history lesson you NEED to understand how “Twiggy” impacts us today
• How to take a stand against the outrageous Diet Industry BS we are relentlessly bombarded with
Have you ever noticed how it’s like so not politically correct to call someone fat or call yourself fat?
That’s because there’s this underlying stigma that being fat means that you’re lazy, stupid, ignorant, less worthy of a person – and the idea that being slim is also associated with being popular, attractive, right and successful.
But what would you say to me if I told you that you are a bad person because you’re not a good cook, because you don’t get the dinner on the table by 5:00, because you don’t spray feminine hygiene products like Lysol on your hooha for your husband’s pleasure? Basically that you’re a bad person or a less valuable person because you’re a woman and men are better than women.
You will tell me where to go, won’t you? You would actually laugh in my face.
But, you see, that is actually the media messages that our mothers were bombarded and our grandmothers were bombarded with in the 1950s, where the admin back then said that a woman’s only worth is either bringing up children or doing the housework.
Okay, so I’m going to give you a bit of a history lesson.
What happened is, after the war, women had to go out to work and they’re suddenly getting skilled and suddenly getting more confident – and they end up walking out of their homes in droves.
Women started this revolution where we liked being appreciated for what we could do as opposed to just being a mother and a wife.
The suffragettes campaigned for the votes and women being outspoken, women became somebody who mattered and had an influence in the world outside the home.
So it’s no coincidence than in the 1960s and ‘70s, the ideal body for a woman changed from being modest and curvy and feminine to being waif-like, Twiggy-esque, where the ideal woman was cowered down and frail-looking. And women who spoke up for themselves, feminists, were portrayed as fat, angry, man-hating, hairy armpits showing, lesbians.
What happened was that the economy no longer was propped up by these women wanting to be a domestic goddess at home and, basically, the economy had to focus all of its attention in the one remaining button they could push – and that was beauty.
And that is the idea that there is a near standard physical perfection for women to achieve. But the thing is that there is none for men and it’s also decided through the eyes of men as well.
You could see that in play when you see a newsreader, an anchorman, who is balding, with the glasses, and grey, and he’s got a paunch belly – but he’s flanked by these beautiful, young, gorgeous women on either side of him, who need to be not only gorgeous but smart and perform in their jobs, and young, and keep that appearance up the whole time.
So there’s no equivalent standard of near physical perfection for men.
And that’s where all this economic manipulation has been directed to push our buttons. just in the area of beauty.
So the deadly defeating sin I’m talking to you about today is the idea that the way you look on the outside reflects how good of a person you are on the inside.
And just the way that you scoff at the 1950s sexist ads, you should be scoffing at that idea as well. You should be bringing that up to surface and see how that’s manipulating you into feeling like you’re fat is making you less of a person.
Take a stand, refuse to be one of the statistics, and refuse to be manipulated by other people’s idea of how you should look and instead create your own idea of how you should look.
Wake up! Wake up to yourself and smell the roses – because a life spent wishing you were looking like somebody else, rejecting the body that you already have, is a life wasted.
And you, my beautiful soul, are far too gorgeous to spend the rest of your days hating this gorgeous body that you’re living in.
After suffering a fairly serious breakdown I was unable to cope with life in general. My body felt broke, old and frail – I didn’t just feel middle aged, I felt half dead. I hadn’t realised that my body was self destructing and I was doing it to myself, working long hours, too much alcohol, lots of bad food and absolutely no exercise.
After six months of working with Bianca, I no longer need my blood pressure medication, anti depressants and my cholesterol is in a safe zone. I have lost 2 dress sizes and more than 26 kilos. I now have a life outside of our business and can see a happy, healthy future for our family. I hope the person I became never comes back as I like this girl so much better.
I had heard of Bianca through some magazines – it was an investment but I had tried and failed so many times but in six short months, 20 kilos melted off me and it had a massive and unexpected effect on our styling business. While working with Bianca we secured a national gig, increased our prices to a level we previously thought no one would pay, AND we were booked out weeks in advance.
The majority of this 20 kilo weight loss has only been 5% diet and exercise, the rest has been an emotional journey. Bianca confronted me and called me on my BS and challenged some of my most deeply help beliefs about who I am. And the results are undeniable. I haven’t completely quit drinking, I still get to eat chocolate, I’ve had the best year in my business EVER – and perhaps the most important thing is how differently I react to things emotionally.
Who knew that taking it slowly and being kind to yourself could get you the results that yelling at yourself couldn’t.
Before working with Bianca I was super stressed and I thought it was too hard and I didn’t have the time to be slim AND successful. But I was surprised at how easy it was to implement Bianca’s system – I haven’t counted calories and I still pig out on foods I love. It’s been no coincidence to me that as a result of the new clarity of mind I’ve actually doubled my business at the same time I’ve made these changes to my body.