And 11 Surprising Benefits of Dealing with Emotional Eating
You know it really frustrates me when I hear people who struggle with their weight being chastised by others for “being lazy” or “having no will power”.
As we all know – not every person who is skinny is that way because they have a great work ethic or they’re super motivated. So why do overweight people have to suffer those blanket judgements and ignorant generalisations?
Losing weight ISN’T as simple as just energy in and energy out – there’s a delicate balance of hormones that play a crucial role in maintaining a healthy weight.
That’s why you’ll notice that your 24 year old self was able to manage her weight far more easily – with a fraction of the effort and care factor than your current self!
It all comes down to your hormones. Your “Fat Switch” is a term I refer to as the hormonal chain reaction that makes it near impossible to lose weight AND keep it off. If you’re suffering from any combination of these hormonal imbalances, your brain is essentially making your body want to be fat so that no matter how hard you try nothing will work long term.
High Cortisol Levels (the flight or fright response).
We are exposed to so much more stress these days and high levels of cortisol is often referenced in dieters as being in “starvation mode”. Cortisol makes you crave fatty, sugary foods, slows down your metabolise and makes you feel sluggish and less willing to expend energy (no wonder it’s a struggle to exercise). It also hoards your fat stores stubbornly and makes it really difficult to lose those extra kilos – and super easy to gain them back again.
Insulin Resistance (the condition that precedes Type 2 Diabetes and puts your body into fat storage mode)
Insulin acts like a conveyor belt that shovels all excess glucose in the blood stream into your fat stores. The more resistant you are, the less your body listens to it and the more insulin in your system – which in turn means you’re a fat storing machine.
Leptin Resistance (what tells your body you’re full)
If your body isn’t listening to leptin it will ONLY tell you to stop eating once you’re absolutely bursting at the seams, it reacts with your thyroid to slow down your metabolism and your tongue loses it’s sensitivity to sweet foods, so you need sweeter foods to satisfy you.
When you understand this relationship and the lifestyle factors that are kicking off this hormonal domino effect of stubborn weight gain – that’s when you realise that no amount of will power can force your body to lose weight AND stay off!
The only way to get lasting and permanent results is by NOURISHING (not depriving) REDUCING Stress (not punishing yourself in the gym) and prioritising SELF CARE – that’s when incredible changes happen in your world AND the weight just falls off as simply a by-product of this hormonal recalibration.
My heart absolutely bursts with pride when I see my Love Your Body Lean Re-Schoolers experiencing this hormonal recalibration for themselves! Check out Vanessa’s list below of awesome “emotional weight loss” changes and you might see some behaviours that you’re doing, but didn’t realise the link to weight gain.
This is absolutely the secret gold lining that most people get confused because they think these changes are a RESULT of losing weight, when actually the reverse is true.
You know that saying “It’s like a weight that’s been lifted from my shoulders” – that absolutely reflects the emotional weight loss that happens when you can deal with stress in a more functional manner. These changes are the CAUSE of emotional weight loss – when you lose the weight from your mind first, then it affects every other part of your body and your life.
Check out Vanessa’s list below that are 11 surprising benefits of dealing with emotional weight.
Vanessa says “I’ve been reflecting on some of the things that have changed in my life since I’ve started the Re-School. Here is the list so far:”
1. Stopped biting my nails (after doing it for 40 years).
Biting nails has been associated with confusion, worry and doubt since Ancient Greece – Vanessa is showing that through our NLP coaching sessions – she has been able to rewire neural pathways in her brain so that she can create better, more efficient ways at dealing with stress, and reduce her cortisol levels.
2. Given up coffee – just don’t feel like I need it any more.
Coffee is a stimulant that can fatigue the adrenal glands and keep you in that “flight or fright” mode – which again raises your cortisol levels. Coffee is also an appetite suppressant, so often people drink coffee and pass up on food. When your body is actually craving energy that comes from nourishment and you keep ignoring it, it will interpret that lack of nutrition as a shortage of food or a winter approaching – which again, flicks on your Fat Switch. Vanessa is now getting her nourishment from her food in regular intervals which stabilises her blood sugar and nourishes her body with the energy it needs – so no wonder her need to drink coffee has disappeared!
3.Gone from 2+ glasses of wine most days to the occasional glass or two, and only if I feel like it.
Alcohol is high in calories, but provides no nutritional value, and also encourages drinkers to eat fatty, deep fried food that usually goes hand in hand with social occasions. Because your liver chooses to burn off the alcohol first, all those additional calories from food get stored as excess fat – AND the alcohol itself reduces cortisol. What I love about this change is that because Vanessa has improved her “emotional intelligence” through the Re-School tasks so she’s getting less stressed throughout the day. That means she’s relying less on alcohol as a form of relaxation – and she doesn’t have to swear off it, or tell herself she’s never allowed a glass of wine again! Taking the pressure off yourself and enjoying things in moderation is the key to not having to use will power (and not obsess about it!)
4. Happy to wear bathers in public and get in the water –
jumping through waves at the beach is my new happy place!
Saying nasty things to yourself about your appearance and why you shouldn’t be seen in your swimmers actually KICKS off those fat storming hormones. The other doozy is that missing out on enjoying yourself with reckless abandon actually prevents the release of the mood-boosting endorphins, AND you miss out on your chance of turning that Fat Switch OFF to Lean, Strong & Curvy!
5. Can eat a couple of jubes from a packet of lollies then stop
(Old me would eat the whole packet – feeling ill after the first couple – just to make sure they were gone).
If you eat sporadically, over estimate your portion sizes when you do eat, and have a tendency to crave fatty, high sugar foods, your blood sugar levels will experience massive highs and crashes. As a result you get low blood sugar episodes and junk food cravings, and then your body can’t burn fat efficiently. And all this happens because your body’s not listening to the hormone insulin.
6. I’ve given up botox injections – who cares if I have a few wrinkles.
And BTW no one else has noticed one way or the other.
I think this one speaks volumes on the incredible changes to Vanessa’s self confidence, and her appreciation of her inner AND outer beauty – don’t you think? I’m no expert in Botox, but I’m thinking that seeing as anything foreign injected into the body would be treated as toxins right? And toxins are stored in fat cells if they can’t quickly be processed by the body, so eliminating the Botox injections would allow her body to metabolise those extra fat cells without risking those toxins contaminating and inflaming the rest of the body.
And can I just say, you don’t hear many dudes injecting Botox – why? Because men are not devalued by their wrinkles. Buying into Botox is just buying into “The Beauty Myth” (check out that book by Naomi Wolf). The delusion that there is such a thing of “near perfect of physical beauty”, that it can be defined, and that men or a patriarchal society are allowed to dictate what that definition actually looks like. And by the way – there is no such standard or legal definition for men….. Go figure…
7. I only buy clothes of the right size – all that matters is it fits and I feel good.
“If that’s a bigger size than I normally wear who cares. Interestingly, in most cases I’ve been buying smaller sizes, I think I saw myself as larger than I am; buying sack-like clothes to hide in.”
Vanessa is showing her SELF ACCEPTANCE and letting go of societal dogma that tells her she needs to dress or look a certain way in order to be valued. She’s showing that she no longer believes that her size demonstrates her worth as a person.
It’s not something that she can just intellectualise – she actually knows it from deep within her subconscious mind as a result of our NLP coaching sessions together.
What most people don’t realise is that our cells are regenerating all the time (actually ever 7 years we are a completely new human being) – and this regeneration happens following the blueprint that is stored in our mind. So if you THINK you’re a fat heifer, your body produces the cells to ensure that your outward appearance matches your inner representation. Your MIND is the PROJECTOR screen for your body!
And when you feel good, you also look good – which in turn allows you to kick off all the fat burning, self love endorphins and shut off your Fat Switch.
8. Given up extra commitments that didn’t bring me happiness
So many women who struggle to prioritise their health, do so because they feel an overwhelming need to be a people pleaser.
What about saying “No” is so difficult???
It’s because it reflects one of our most primal fears – of “not belonging” and being rejected from the shelter of the tribe. When you recognise that those extra commitments were stopping others from facing their own responsibilities and their own life lessons – and that your ONLY purpose here on Earth is to experience joy…. then it becomes far easier to make time for self-care.
9. I say “thank you” when someone pays me a compliment. I have no idea why that seemed so hard before.
I’ll tell you why Vanessa – when you have a critical image of yourself in your subconscious mind you purposefully distort, delete and distort anything that proves otherwise. Women throughout the ages have an underlying set of beliefs referred to as the “Feminine Image Complex” – where we are encouraged to be as attractive as possible in order to be successful and find a partner, but not so attractive that we get raped.
Deep stuff hey!
But have a think about it next time you brush off a compliment, is it because you don’t like the attention and it makes you uncomfortable? Uncomfortable from what? What is making you feel unsafe? Feeling unsafe kicks off the flight or fright response and can be a massive causative factor in why women hold onto weight – their fear of being too attractive to the opposite sex.
One of my clients who I helped deal with this fear (despite how irrational it seemed from the comfort of her every day life) – dropped 21cm of bloat/inflammation/fat/water from her waist alone – in just one week.
When you realise you’re safe and secure in your appearance, because you are not your body – you are the light that shines from within – then you are able to accept compliments in the spirit in which they were given – with love, humility and gratitude.
10. Stopped skipping breakfast and stopped following arbitrary food ‘rules’.
“For example, I mentioned to someone that I tend to eat savoury mince with salad for breakfast. They told me that I can’t have that for breakfast. Why not? Who says I can’t? In fact I’m proof that you can actually.”
We’ve been taught to consider food as either “good” or “bad” – when food is just food, made up of a chemical structure, that reacts with our body to fuel us, and actually has no morality at all! Vanessa is demonstrating her self acceptance in creating her own rules, she’s showing self confidence to fiercely protect those rules AND she’s listening to her body and fuelling it with what it wants.
That is the Number One factor that most people miss out on when they’re letting somebody else decide what they’re allowed to eat – your body has the innate wisdom to heal itself from any condition, you just have to stop for long enough to listen!
11. Oh, and when people say “Vanessa can’t eat that, she only eats paleo” I can happily respond with “HA! What I eat is none of your business. I can eat that if I want to, I just choose not to”.
“Old me, probably did that too but the difference is that I would eat whatever it was just to show them.”
Have you ever noticed how when people are in an “All or Nothing” “Good VS Bad” bandwagon – they get very judgemental and seem to want to preach to anyone who listens (no matter how hypocritical they sound).If we listened to every person on their high horse about what foods we shouldn’t eat – we’d all starve!
What people don’t realise is that it’s not the food itself that is fattening – it’s how you feel about the food that kicks off your Fat Switch.
When you bless the food going into your body, when you self heal through the lifestyle choices that you make – that’s when you take back control of the reigns of YOUR HEALTH and YOUR BODY …
and that’s the most powerful fat burning pill you could NEVER buy!
We all know people who eat complete rubbish and still stay slim, it’s not about their genetics – it’s about their hormonal environment.
Your genetics do not preclude you from being lean, healthy and strong.
We are all at the end of a long line of natural selection, it’s only in the last 100 years that our lifestyles and food sources have changed so much that we have been suffering from an obesity epidemic.
You are not destined to be forever struggling with your weight – you CAN heal your body, and not only that it’s YOUR BIRTHRIGHT!
You just need to look at your body as an incredibly efficient adapting machine, and when you can appreciate that it’s just trying to keep you safe and survive by turning on your Fat Switch – then you can stop fighting against yourself and start “loving yourself lean!”.
If you’d like to know more about the Re-School – check it out here and if you’d like to ask some questions specific to your situation I encourage you to apply for a consult by filling out your details on the same page.